Abusers from Aberfan..

I have been reading the book "why does he do that" again, trying to make sense of some abusive behaviour my kids are suffering from, as usual it does not make sense!! i suppose a normal person cant get in an abusers mind!.. although of course i have been called not normal by him, but curiously he says that about every woman he has ever had a relationship with!!..So he's waited a month thinking that my sons would slowly come round, and that they couldn't possibly do without him in their lives!!...,and of course this would have been the point for him to say sorry,and he would try not to do it again, but as with all abusers 'sorry' does not exist in their vocabulary, (real sorry, not just done to further manipulate), but abusers never believe they have done anything wrong, so no need to apologize!!..Sad Sad man,he so has to be 'right' that he will sacrifice his relationship with his sons and granddaughters..so the threats have started, 'i will get the police and social services on you', the usual behaviour, after telling Joe's friends he was going to kill himself, because BOTH his boys don't want him in their lives,when that didn't work, he tried the old lemon, the Aberfan Disaster, which has got him so much sympathy in the past,(he wasn't even born when it happened,his parents were the ones who lived through that terrible day), then the threats, doubly cruel for Daisy as she has always been frightened of the social services taking her baby away, as she grew up in care herself. The usual DESPICABLE tactics of the Abuser...