Delusions of Gangster?

Ben talks a lot about being brave, being a tough Guy, its important to him, but annoying when he doesnt want me to go out of the house alone! I told him its a thing God has put in Men to Protect their family...then we talked about Joe his brother,who like his Dad regard themselves as real tough guys, but actually dont rush to protect at all!!, talking Big!! talks a good fight!!,Years ago myself and the Kids and Jon were in the local park and some annoying guys were kicking a ball around and it was getting close to the kids, he wouldnt do anything,and when it eventualy hit Bens puschair, HIS kid,he looked the other way, i was furious and went up to one of the football players poked him in the chest,as high as i could reach! and told him off! Jons reaction was to say"i wasnt going to do anything because he was bigger than me"....and we had the same thing with Joe when he refused to do anything about a disturbed teenager who had been calling Ben names,"weird guy"i had already been to the house and told the kids Dad....i wanted to go back and talk to the Dad about what went on,but Joe wouldnt...I was frankly appalled,but it took a long time to sink in, and any respect i had for him started to go... a lot of his character reminded me of his Dad,a guy went after him,he didnt fight back,and his young girlfriend jumped on the guys back,with him just saying to the guy, "if thats as hard as you can punch i am sorry for you" A cutting remark to be sure!! I feel qiuite bad that i have underestimated Ben, a lot of people do, even his own Dr,"who said the understanding is just not there",he has average intelligence,(said his child pyschiatrist)the same as anyone else, but because he chooses very carefully who he will talk too! people think he cant talk!! I have recorded a conversation i have had with Ben and will play it for the dr next time we see him!! no lack of understanding there mate! Strangely too, i was sitting right next to Ben with this same dr (on the other side of him),the dr was trying to persuade him to have an Injection, Ben clearly said "No", but the Dr kept on at him,with no response, later we got a print out of the Outcome of the consultation where the dr said Ben "had consented"NO he didnt,of course i would not accuse a medical professional of Coerction,maybe it was just a misunderstanding? Ben is terrified of needles.