NO taming the shrews,no taming the bullies.

Today i am grateful to God because He has made us all different, it would be very boring if everyone were made the same!!! The Shrews and Bullies i could do without of course! but i would never want them never to have been born now, i love both the Shrews in my family,but don't like them!.. maybe i would like it that the Bullies were never around, but without them i would not have Ben and Joe!...i have been talking to Joe about him teasing his girlfriend, he used to do it to me and Ben,she complained to me about it, so i talked to them both about it, and when he was on his own last week,i asked  him why he enjoyed upsetting people, he said it was funny to see them 'wound up',' and i said' but if you love others you should not want to upset them' It seemed to make him think, and Daisy did says he has stopped.The main reason is because he will end up lonely, and alone, like most bullies do,i care about his future happiness, and of course Daisy's too, i know he would have some of his Fathers characteristics,and he does, he is very loving, and affectionate, the only one of my children who is,and the care he shows Ben is wonderful to see.I was just worried in case he got the bad ones too, but he seems not too,Jon their Dad once said he could not wait until they were grown up so they could 'see what a terrible person i was'!!... they are grown up, and neither of them can stand HIM.!!!!..really sad because i did everything i could to make sure they had a relationship with him, Now Joe says he wished i had just cut their Dad out of their lives when they were little.!!
So there is no taming of the Shrews,(which of course is a completely anti female Shakespearean play, when women are beaten to make them behave, and of course the whole concept a woman is tamed by love is ridiculous......)!!!...There is no taming of the Bullies, they enjoy it too much, and it works for them really well, but of course the danger to others is that BULLIES GET WORSE,as the victims get used to the violence it takes more to make them 'behave'.and this is not just my opinion, Lundy Bancroft says this too, please take care anyone who lives with a bully, get out fast. Love does not save you,bullies don't love,anyone BUT THEMSELVES.